Remember not to get too touchy, otherwise her parents might find out. It is important to respect them as if they were your own.
I would never treat anyone that lowly
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Yeah we wouldnāt break rules or anything. We both have some rebellious characteristics, but we donāt deliberately break rules
I thought that too some time backā¦
Until camp dude said we had to be split into boys and girls for literally everything
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They split at the lake and pool (girls get lake one day, guys get pool the same day, and they switch it each day) and obviously in cabins, and in āsmall groupsā but theyāre usually pretty chill as long as mixed groups hanging out have at least two of each
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I have made a decision regarding relationships.
Iām not gonna search for a relatinship until it is blatantly clear that someone is The One.
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Thatās all.
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Iāve made friends with her friendsā¦
No not for that, they are genuinely nice people
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Isnāt that kinda the point of dating relationships from a Christian perspective? Trying to find out more about someone and what theyād be like as a spouse to see if theyāre the one?
Weāre from the same church friend group, and I kind of know some of her school friends.
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In a nutshell, yeah.
Soā¦ youāre doing the opposite of that 
Not quite
I just got out of my freshman year in highschool
The chance that I meet my future spouse here, if I am to have one, is very slim
The serious searching usually should start in college. That way itās neither too late, nor to early.
Thatās what Iām doing
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Ah ok I see.
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Sighā¦yep.
Iām really mad for getting myself into that. She dumped me Thursday and my whole week was affected bc I was anticipating it. I wanna be done with these fake/forced relationships
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pats shoulder, hands over cookies
I would give some advice, but it involves religion, so I wonāt say it here. I can say it in a DM if ya want.
Also, that sucks. That really does.
Go ahead
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Sorry about that, man. Unfortunately, I donāt have much useful advice or encouragement to give, but, hey, at least make the experience worth it. Itāll make your future relationships all the better if you take lessons from this one.
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Then stop forcing them.
Look, Yāall are young and I was totally in the same boat 5 or 6 years ago, but the fact of the matter is that thereās a 90 percent chance any relationship you get into at your ages is gonna fail. Why? Because there is so much growing left to do.
Iām not the same person I was a decade ago, or five years ago, and neither is anyone I knew back then. Things change, especially when you move out on your own and start your own life.
The best advice I can give is to not dwell on it and find something (outside of Bonk and the Boards) that you love. Something that will get you out of the house and meeting new people. For me, thatās open mic nights and local shows, for some others it might be expositions at the museum or art gallery, or a fitness group, or part time work/volunteering at trade shows or events.
The more people you meet, the more likely you are to find someone who not only you want to spend time with, but wants to spend time with you. Even if youāre socially awkward and have a hard time meeting new people, if you keep putting yourself in those situations you can overcome the awkwardness.
Now granted, religion doesnāt play any kind of role in my relationships so your mileage may vary, but thatās whatās worked for me. There is wisdom in the idea that āwhen you stop caring about being in a relationship, one will find you.ā
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you can do that?
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TBH, probably the best advice on this topic.
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I try 
Itās incredible what some distance and perspective can do for you. It too a loooong time of moping about an ex and feeling alone and worthless before I hit the point where Iām just in it for me.
Way I see it, dating is expensive. Itās money I have no issues paying and time I love to give, but itās money and time that could also be better spent on myself or my business.
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