Okay I've been snooping on this topic for a long time now so I think it's time for my input. In other words, story time with Haf!
M'kay it all started in 2012, I was in year 8 at high school (UK btw). That would have made me about 13 for y'all. So I'd never had a girlfriend at all, had this big group of friends who were all girls tho, and as it turns out one of them liked me, and ended up asking me out by asking one of the other friends to ask me for her, so I was like "Hell no we friends but I ain't into her" and that was that. So cut to a few weeks later and same thing happens, only this time the girls who the was asking for her was all like "come on she really likes you just try it for like 2 weeks and if you don't like it then that's ok" so me being the 13 year old girlfriend-less kid that I was thought "what's the worst that can happen" and said yes... 2 months later I'm still with this girl, but we didn't talk much an' all that, prolly talked more when we were just friends, so I hadda end it an' all. She wasn't too bothered as it was mutually agreed that we were better friends, so that was that, and we were still friends by the end of school 3 years later, so good job me I guess.
In the mean time, I'd talked to 1 or 2 girls, but believe me at high school in the UK that ain't a good idea because unless you're 'cool' you gettin' made fun of if you don't choose someone who everyone wants to be with, and nobody wanna be with me or my friends, so we were pretty screwed until college, little did we know.
So college hits and so does lesson 1 folks I'm in 3 out of 4 of my subjects with this same girls, and buy I like her. Legit first week of college I added her on Facebook despite us not knowing eachother. But being me, having no experience, being a lil nervous kid, do I talk to her besides asking about work. Hell no I do not. See here's lesson 1, "what if she says no" ain't no excuse not to talk to girls. Bite. The. Bullet. Do it, you got nothin' to lose unless you're good friends, but if you really are good friends, then you should be even after she says no. So anyways after 1 year I change course and I don't see her again, with not talking to her being a very big regret of mine.
Cut to last year, and lesson 2, I'm gettin frustrated. I'm 18 and I ain't ever kissed a girl, or even had a proper girlfriend if I'm honest, so what mistake do I make next? Dating apps. Do not use them. I met some girl on the first app I tried, and within 2 week we telling each other we loved each other. That ain't right trust me. This girl lived 50 miles away and the closest I got to meeting her was talking on the phone, so after I ended that she tryna play it off like we're friends. Nah, I got rid of her and the app too. Move to the second app, Tinder. Oooof did I get wayyyy more matches than I was expecting. Out of about 40 matches guess how many I actually met up with. 1. She told me I was perfect and I was the best person she ever met. And I believed it all. She one of these who says "I hate liars" but then turns out she lying to me the whole time. So that's lesson 2. Don't use the apps.
So during that time I was pretty desperate, but for about 7 months before I got those apps I'd had this girl on Facebook and I loved the way she looked, but like the girl from college I was far too scared to talk to her. After that last girl from Tinder (which was at about christmas 2017) I was on a real low. I thought nobody could like me, so like 4 days later I thought, ima risk it all, and I popped up to the girl from Facebook...
We've now been together for 9 months and counting, so that's lesson 3, y'all gonna get there in the end.
Sorry for the long post but I wanted to tell the whole story.